Couples work draws from many methods and approaches, including Relational Life Therapy, Emotion Focused Therapy, Attachment Theory, and others.

Couples work clarifies the problems - the patterns of negative coping that have been established - and the origins of the patterns. These are often established in childhood, how we learned to cope in our earlier and most essential relationships.

Trauma can be addressed, and empathy developed for one another. Improved communication is practiced from our present day, adult selves, in a safe, non judgmental setting.

We learn how our own nervous systems respond when we are triggered, how we escalate one another’s worst fears. We learn how to reconnect in healthy, empathic, loving ways. We learn how to communicate in ways that feel supportive of ourselves, and of our partner. We also acknowledge how culture, and intergenerational issues, may be playing out between the couple.

Successful couples work takes the cycle of suffering out and puts couples in present time, adult relationship - energized, intimate, and generous.